Q&A: Why Not Just Scan for Defects Earlier?

Posted on Posted in D&E, Induction/L&D, Omphalocele, Opinion, Q&A, Stories

Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION Why have an abortion so late? Why not just scan for defects earlier? A 12-week scan can pick up most issues. I had a scan at 12 weeks and discovered our baby had a giant omphalecele (all his internal organs were in a sack on the outside of his body). We were told his lungs and heart would not develop properly and he had a 1 in 10,000 chance of surviving to the age of two. Because nerve endings don’t develop until about the 18 week mark, we made the heartbreaking decision to end the pregnancy […]

Walks with God

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By R. V. I had always wanted children very much, and went through the beginning of fertility treatments with my first husband. After 10 years, that marriage ended. A few years later, I met the love of my life and current husband. He had two children already, 10 and 12 years old, but agreed to try once more so I could experience the joys of motherhood. Finally at age 40 I got pregnant. There was never a more desired child. At three months I went for an ultrasound. They told me that I needed to come back in a few weeks because they couldn’t get an accurate view […]

Still Relevant

Posted on Posted in Anencephaly, Hydrocephalus, Induction/L&D, Multiple Losses, Neural Tube Defects, Spina Bifida

By MJP We’re the women politicians don’t talk about. Women who were pregnant with wanted and waited for babies, not birth control accidents, not rape, and not “irresponsible.” My story is now 24 years old but still relevant. We always thought we would have three or four children. Baby number one was born in 1985 after an uneventful pregnancy, a healthy boy. In spring of 1988 I had my first miscarriage and was devastated. In 1990 I had a second miscarriage. I was told not to worry, that it was only after a third miscarriage that the doctors would be concerned. A few months later I […]

What Kind of Mother … ?

Posted on Posted in Dandy Walker Syndrome, Induction/L&D, Termination after 24 weeks

By Rachel Bertsche When Kate, a 29-year-old mom outside Boston, found out she was pregnant with a second daughter, she was elated. Then, at 36 weeks along, she got the news that is every expecting parent’s worst nightmare: Her baby, who she would later name Rose, had two brain malformations. Kate decided to have abortion, and eventually found solace in a support group on the website Ending a Wanted Pregnancy. The online community is for parents who terminate pregnancies for medical reasons (pregnancies they wanted, but chose to end after a severe prenatal diagnosis or maternal health issue) and who often feel alone or ashamed, and […]

Q&A: How Did You Deal with Baby’s Remains?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION We asked our support group members to share their answers to these questions: How did you handle your baby’s remains? Is there anything you wish you had known earlier, or wish could have been done differently? There are no “wrong” answers to this question. Note: This may be a sensitive or “triggering” topic for some, especially the newly bereaved. For those who wonder, hospitals do deal with remains in a respectful manner in the absence of specific instructions from patients. ANSWERS My wife had a D&E and we opted to have a direct cremation. The hospital […]

Q&A: How Did You Handle the Financial Burden?

Posted on Posted in D&C, D&E, Induction/L&D, Practical Information, Q&A

Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION How did you handle the financial burdens associated with ending your wanted pregnancy? These might include any medical expenses, travel expenses if you had to travel to obtain your procedure, cremation, funeral and related costs, and counseling services or mental health therapy. ANSWERS California—Thankfully, my health insurance covered all of it. I am lucky to live in California. Michigan—My parents helped us. I was a SAHM at the time and we were getting by on my husband’s teacher’s salary. Because he is a state employee, our health insurance wouldn’t touch abortion for any reason. We didn’ […]

Baby’s Boots

Posted on Posted in Congenital Heart Defects, Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome, Induction/L&D, Stories

By L. B. I am 21 weeks, two days pregnant and have decided to terminate my pregnancy. This is my first pregnancy. I had wanted to conceive for several years, but my husband was not ready. Then for Christmas this year, he surprised me with a pair of baby Timberland® boots. It was his signal to me that he was finally ready for fatherhood. The first time we tried to conceive, I got pregnant. I couldn’t believe how easy it was. I was nauseated and tired the first trimester, but nothing out of the ordinary. I am very athletic and continued running. During my eighth week of pregnancy I […]

Life Can Change on a Dime

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By A.E. I have always heard your life can change on a dime, but I really never believed it until now. My husband and I were excited to see how our baby was growing and we contemplated finding out the sex. I was 22 weeks along. The ultrasound technician asked how my pregnancy was and I said fine, she then began the ultrasound. Her next question sent me into a blind panic. “Do you have a doctor appointment today?” She fell silent and stayed that way through rest of the exam. When it was over all she said was, “A doctor would be in shortly.” I looked at my husband. “Something is wrong.” “Everything […]

Q&A: Can I Choose the Termination Procedure I Want?

Posted on Posted in D&E, Hydrocephalus, Induction/L&D, Neural Tube Defects, Practical Information, Q&A, Spina Bifida, Stories

Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION My unborn child has been diagnosed with severe spina bifida with hydrocephalus at week 19 gestation. My husband and I have decided to terminate the pregnancy. The  D&E seems cruel to me. I would like to have early induction and delivery abortion (L&D) but I don’t think they will offer it to me. I think that I would cope and grieve more effectively with this termination method. I want to see my child and say goodbye. Do you have any suggestions?   ANSWER I am very sorry that you are having to go through […]

Only Seventeen

Posted on Posted in Anencephaly, Induction/L&D, Neural Tube Defects

By C.C. I found out three months into my pregnancy that I my baby was a girl. I also found out she had anencephaly. My body didn’t have enough folic acid to allow the baby’s brain and skull to form. I was only 17 at the time. This was my first child. I chose to have an induced labor termination at 19 weeks gestation. My precious baby girl, Seirra Marie. I thought I’d be lost with out her. I had all these dreams for her and they were shattered now. I’m 18 now and am still in pain sometimes. I wish I was in someone else’s shoes and was able to have a […]