Q&A: How Did Legal Restrictions Affect Your Experience?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION Were there legal and insurance restrictions on pregnancy termination that affected your procedure or made it harder to obtain or afford? If so, which restrictions and how did they affect your experience? Please include your state, province or geographic region. All answers were provided by members of Ending a Wanted Pregnancy’s  private grief support group. Note: To find out more about abortion restrictions where you live, check out NARAL’s interactive map detailing abortion restrictions state-by-state. ANSWERS Florida—No one would touch me with a ten-foot pole here. I was told (which I later found out was false) that the […]

My Third-Trimester Abortion

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By Kate C. This article is based on a talk the author gave to OBs and medical students at her diagnosing hospital. I am here today to tell you about my third trimester abortion. Before I begin, I want to make two things very clear: First, I am here to speak with you because I want to share my experience. I am not afraid to share, and you shouldn’t be afraid to ask questions if you have them. I think people often hold back to protect me, but they needn’t bother. I live with these memories every day. There is no angle from which I haven’t looked […]

destiigmatizing abortion

Destigmatizing Abortion

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By Grace O. Let’s talk about destigmatizing abortion. I’ll start by saying that wherever you are at right now with the word abortion, you are Ok and you are welcome here. Discomfort with the word—and the associated politics surrounding it—are not uncommon in this community, especially with our newcomers. But I think it’s time we sat down with an ice cold of pitcher of lemonade and talked it out. First things first: we are here to support you through your pregnancy loss regardless of your politics. We understand that emotionally, terminating a wanted pregnancy for medical reasons is very different from terminating an unwanted pregnancy. We’re probably all […]

Women Who Experience a “Socially Unacceptable Kind of Grief” Find Community Online

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By Tara Culp-Ressler After picking out a baby name and decorating a nursery, the last thing you expect to do is have an abortion. So, when Grace made the painful decision to end her pregnancy at 20 weeks after she learned her unborn son Leo had serious health defects, she thought she was the only woman in the world who had ever gone through that. When she stumbled onto a website filled with stories from other women who had also terminated wanted pregnancies, she couldn’t believe her eyes. “I had never heard of this happening to anybody,” Grace told ThinkProgress. “I read all the stories. It […]

Q&A: How Do You Feel About the Word Abortion?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION We asked our web site and support group administrators “How do you feel about the word ‘abortion’? How have your feelings about the word changed in the years since you had yours?” ANSWERS For me even after hearing my doctor say abortion, I still didn’t want to believe it. I was a sucky pro-choice person back then. I thought abortion was reserved for other people, not me, the happily married woman. But I always said I never knew what I would do if my birth control pills had failed before marriage. I remember recoiling when my […]

Q&A: How Did You Handle the Financial Burden?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION How did you handle the financial burdens associated with ending your wanted pregnancy? These might include any medical expenses, travel expenses if you had to travel to obtain your procedure, cremation, funeral and related costs, and counseling services or mental health therapy. ANSWERS California—Thankfully, my health insurance covered all of it. I am lucky to live in California. Michigan—My parents helped us. I was a SAHM at the time and we were getting by on my husband’s teacher’s salary. Because he is a state employee, our health insurance wouldn’t touch abortion for any reason. We didn’ […]

Our Compendium of Practical Information

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In addition to the emotional support you need to deal with the realities of ending your wanted pregnancy due to fetal or maternal health problems, you may also need practical information. What are the medical procedures? How do you find an abortion provider? Will your insurance cover this abortion? What are the laws regarding abortion where you live? What is an abortion doula? What do I do when my milk comes in? Procedures Searching “abortion procedures” online may result in an glut of upsetting misinformation designed to frighten or make you feel guilty about abortion. For your peace of mind, we’ve done the searching for […]

Remembering Dr. Tiller’s Kindness

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M. K. My story takes place in the year 2000. I was 32 years old and had two older boys from a previous relationship. Jason and I had been married three years and I was pregnant. We were excited and ready to be parents together for the first time. We had selected furniture, car seats, and other items to help us keep our baby comfortable, warm, protected and loved. I took prenatal vitamins, didn’t drink, had never smoked, and avoided sushi, artificial sweeteners, deli meats and cheeses. I had all the usual prenatal tests and everything was normal. Twenty-nine weeks into my pregnancy my OB said I was “carrying […]

My Out-of-State Abortion

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A Mother in Mississippi My husband and I already had a beautiful little girl when we conceived our second child. We were very excited about the pregnancy, and told everyone. I never dreamed that pregnancy would end at an abortion clinic in another state. The day of the ultrasound where we were to find out the sex of the baby finally came. All we thought about was whether we’d be having a little girl or a little boy. I don’t think it ever occurred to us that this would turn out to be the worst day ever. I knew something must be wrong because the […]