Induction/L&D

The “least shitty” option

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We had to make a choice between rock and hard place, shitty or shittier. The least shitty option for us was to terminate the pregnancy. By Jane After several miscarriages, two living children, then more miscarriages, my husband put his foot down and said, “No more.” We couldn’t keep going on like that. I reluctantly agreed. Once that decision was made, I made peace with having our little family despite always wanting four children. In Jan 2018, I had a funny feeling I was pregnant despite not missing a pill. I couldn’t shake the feeling so stopped drinking alcohol and waited until I could take […]

D&C

I Just Wasn’t Expecting This

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I just wasn't expecting this

I just wasn’t expecting this. I hadn’t had time to do any research. I couldn’t think of any questions even though my mind was racing and my hands were shaking. By Stefanie A difficult beginning I’m 39 and had three previous miscarriages (no living children). I had my first miscarriage at 36, then two more miscarriages back-to-back to start off the absolute worst year of my life—2020. Based on all of this, a recent blood clot I had, and some test results, I was put on daily injected blood thinners for my fourth pregnancy starting at five weeks. After I passed the seven-week mark in […]

Congenital Heart Defects

I almost canceled the nuchal translucency

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I almost cancelled the nuchal translucency

Typically, a nuchal translucency is performed between 11 and 13 weeks. Mine was late, at 13.5 weeks. The fact that the doctor wasn’t seeing what he should be seeing at this late stage alarmed me. By Morgan At my first ultrasound, I asked the technician, “Is there a heartbeat?” I breathed a big sigh of relief when she said yes. We had learned from the NIPT that we were expecting a little girl, and we had already come up with a name that we both thought might be a good fit. I almost canceled my nuchal translucency test My husband and I were working full-time from […]

Skeletal Dysplasia

Dads Hurt Too – Talk About It

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Dads hurt too; talk about it

It never crossed my mind as a possibility that my wife and I were not going to have this baby. We did everything right. We downloaded the apps, watched the foods we ate, had regular doctor visits, exercised regularly (but not too much), did all of the genetic screenings, even refrained from letting the news spread until we crossed the first-trimester milestone where miscarriage rates are higher.

D&E

A Terrible Shade of Grey

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hypoplastic left heart is a grey diagnosis

“Your baby has Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. The left side of the heart did not develop. This condition does not have a cure.” A Prenatal Diagnosis of Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome I have always been a planner. Before making any decision, I evaluate the pros and cons and research the risks and associated probabilities. When my husband and I decided to get pregnant, I knew that, according to the CDC, 6% of women struggle with infertility. I knew it could take multiple months to conceive. When we got pregnant on the first try, I also knew that 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. I […]

Articles

What Lawmakers Get Wrong About “Late-Term” Abortions

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what they get wrong about late-term abortion

What Lawmakers (And The Rest Of Us) Get Wrong About ‘Late-Term’ Abortions The procedure often called a late-term abortion has caused controversy in state legislatures around the country – and could be a major issue in the 2020 race. In 2016, Jezebel spoke to a woman who received the procedure. She had an abortion at 32 weeks, and she was told that her baby was “incompatible with life.” “To be clear, if the doctors thought there was any way he might make it, I would have taken that chance. I truly would have put myself through anything. What I came to accept was the fact […]

Opinion

Setting Boundaries with a Journalist

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Setting boundaries with journalists

Katie’s letter is an excellent example of setting boundaries with journalists. She is a longtime member of our grief community and one of the admins who helps keep our private support group safe. Always very open about her abortion story, and a bold advocate for reproductive rights as well as the rights of people with disabilities, Katie knows how to speak her mind. Recently, a journalist was preparing to interview her about her abortions and asked to come into her home to take pictures of her disabled son. This is where Katie drew a firm line. Her letter also touches on outsized roll parents in […]