Opinion

Setting Boundaries with a Journalist

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Setting boundaries with journalists

Katie’s letter is an excellent example of setting boundaries with journalists. She is a longtime member of our grief community and one of the admins who helps keep our private support group safe. Always very open about her abortion story, and a bold advocate for reproductive rights as well as the rights of people with disabilities, Katie knows how to speak her mind. Recently, a journalist was preparing to interview her about her abortions and asked to come into her home to take pictures of her disabled son. This is where Katie drew a firm line. Her letter also touches on outsized roll parents in […]

Opinion

Stand up!

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Please stand up

Bethany spoke at a Stop the Abortion Ban rally. This is what she had to say. by Bethany My name is Bethany, and I am here today because I am sick of being dehumanized. I am sick of my lived experiences being judged. I am sick of my body and my choices being exploited so that extreme Republicans can gather votes and money. The reasons people have abortions are varied. There are no right or wrong reasons. We need to stop allowing lawmakers to sit in judgment of the reasons we have for the choices we make for ourselves, our bodies, and our families. Stop the […]

Induction/L&D

Rest in Peace, Andrew Tweed

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Canadian labour & deliver

We met with a fetal surgical specialist to discuss in-utero surgery to fix the open spine. However, with my BMI (40) being over the limit and my medical history, it wasn’t a good risk for us. A Canadian Labour & Delivery Abortion Experience at 21 weeks  by Emily G. My husband and I were expecting our second child. I was being seen at the high-risk special pregnancy program at Mount Sinai hospital located in Toronto, Ontario Canada for an autoimmune disease. On my 20-week anomalies and gender reveal scan, I brought my sister, my 1.5 year-old-niece and my husband. Since this is a specialist appointment it notoriously takes a […]

D&E

A foggy winter morning

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genetic abnormality

I called the abortion clinic with a program for genetic abnormalities. Through sobbing, I managed to make an appointment for the following week to terminate the pregnancy. by Nicole K. On a foggy winter morning, I pick up the baby’s ashes at the post office. It’s just eleven days after his death. The small, square box is conspicuously labeled “Cremated Remains” which manages to even silence our chatty neighborhood postal clerk. I walk back to our minivan carrying a nearly weightless box while feeling the weight of the world. It takes a while for the tears to stop enough that I can drive. I bring […]

Stories

I Chose Peace

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VACTERL

By reading this story I hope you find comfort in knowing you aren’t alone. I hope some of the strategies I used to cope will give you a beneficial perspective. by Nicole C. I was five months pregnant with our second son. My first pregnancy was normal and I was just trying to survive through this one to “complete our family” as my husband put it. Little did I realize how much I was taking for granted. During our routine 20-week ultrasound, my OBGYN found a slight umbilical cord issue. It took me three weeks to get in for my routine Level II ultrasound that […]

Practical Information

Q & A: How can I avoid Pro-Life OBs?

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avoid anti-choice zealots

QUESTION: Going into a subsequent pregnancy after termination for fetal anomaly, I find I’m really concerned about the politics of my health care providers. How can I tell if an obstetrician (OB), maternal-fetal medicine (MFM) specialist or other health care provider is a “pro-life” anti-choice zealot who won’t support my decisions about my body, my baby and my family? ANSWER: This is a great question and an important one. I actually had (unbeknownst to me at the time) a pro-life MFM. He deliberately delayed telling me my amnio results in an attempt to push me past my state’s abortion deadline. Fortunately, my regular (pro-choice) OB stepped […]

Opinion

Q & A: Is this an appropriate question?

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Just look at these bees, minding their own beeswax. Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION I appreciate the honesty of Kate C. I just read a piece of her writings from 2015. I’m wondering if mothers who choose abortion for a wanted pregnancy ever request testing on their baby’s bodies to confirm the diagnoses doctors give during pregnancy? And maybe why Kate C didn’t. Her article invited questions, so I’m hoping this is still appropriate. Thank you. Cheryl T.   ANSWER Hi Cheryl T. Occasionally, parents do request testing following an abortion for medical reasons. However, asking Kate C. why she […]

Opinion

Think About It

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Think about it.

by Margot Finn Do you know what it is like to live in the same house as a room that you intended for a baby who died? God help you if you’ve already set up a crib and changing table. Do you disassemble them yourself in a sobbing rage late one night, thinking about all the times people told you chipperly to “get sleep now while you can!”? Or do you hack them to bits and burn them some bleak February day when you would have been massively pregnant, about to go into labor any day now, in the alternate timeline where your baby wasn’t […]

Articles

MTHFR Common Polymorphisms

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MTHFR gene - Read about why many medical associations (ACMG, ACOG, AAFP) are recommending not testing for this gene

Editor’s note: The topic of the MTHFR gene crops up every now and then in our private support group. A medical professional who happens to also be a member of our group was concerned about unfounded fears raised by common misunderstandings about this gene. She wrote the following to clarify the facts about this gene and hopefully ease concerns.   By Jenn  The MTHFR gene that has some very common changes within it (so common that 50% of us carry 1 or 2 changes within this gene).  When this gene was first discovered it was thought to be associated with many health concerns including blood clots, […]

Neural Tube Defects

Daddy’s Shoes

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Severe spina bifida - Daddy's shoes - "Our gender reveal party was canceled because of the news of severe spina bifida that we got from the specialist. The crushing feeling still haunts me."

We called several specialists around the country and Dana spent an entire day on the phone with the four big players in the fetal surgery specialty. In some cases, they can do surgery on the baby while still in-utero. All the specialists looked at our case of severe spina bifida and gave our son bleak prognoses.