D&E

A Terrible Shade of Grey

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hypoplastic left heart is a grey diagnosis

“Your baby has Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. The left side of the heart did not develop. This condition does not have a cure.” A Prenatal Diagnosis of Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome I have always been a planner. Before making any decision, I evaluate the pros and cons and research the risks and associated probabilities. When my husband and I decided to get pregnant, I knew that, according to the CDC, 6% of women struggle with infertility. I knew it could take multiple months to conceive. When we got pregnant on the first try, I also knew that 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. I […]

Articles

What Lawmakers Get Wrong About “Late-Term” Abortions

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What Lawmakers (And The Rest Of Us) Get Wrong About ‘Late-Term’ Abortions The procedure often called a late-term abortion has caused controversy in state legislatures around the country – and could be a major issue in the 2020 race. In 2016, Jezebel spoke to a woman who received the procedure. She had an abortion at 32 weeks, and she was told that her baby was “incompatible with life.” “To be clear, if the doctors thought there was any way he might make it, I would have taken that chance. I truly would have put myself through anything. What I came to accept was the fact […]

Opinion

Setting Boundaries with a Journalist

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Setting boundaries with journalists

Katie’s letter is an excellent example of setting boundaries with journalists. She is a longtime member of our grief community and one of the admins who helps keep our private support group safe. Always very open about her abortion story, and a bold advocate for reproductive rights as well as the rights of people with disabilities, Katie knows how to speak her mind. Recently, a journalist was preparing to interview her about her abortions and asked to come into her home to take pictures of her disabled son. This is where Katie drew a firm line. Her letter also touches on outsized roll parents in […]

Opinion

Stand up!

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Please stand up

Bethany spoke at a Stop the Abortion Ban rally. This is what she had to say. by Bethany My name is Bethany, and I am here today because I am sick of being dehumanized. I am sick of my lived experiences being judged. I am sick of my body and my choices being exploited so that extreme Republicans can gather votes and money. The reasons people have abortions are varied. There are no right or wrong reasons. We need to stop allowing lawmakers to sit in judgment of the reasons we have for the choices we make for ourselves, our bodies, and our families. Stop the […]

Induction/L&D

Rest in Peace, Andrew Tweed

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Canadian labour & deliver

We met with a fetal surgical specialist to discuss in-utero surgery to fix the open spine. However, with my BMI (40) being over the limit and my medical history, it wasn’t a good risk for us. A Canadian Labour & Delivery Abortion Experience at 21 weeks  by Emily G. My husband and I were expecting our second child. I was being seen at the high-risk special pregnancy program at Mount Sinai hospital located in Toronto, Ontario Canada for an autoimmune disease. On my 20-week anomalies and gender reveal scan, I brought my sister, my 1.5 year-old-niece and my husband. Since this is a specialist appointment it notoriously takes a […]

D&E

A foggy winter morning

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I called the abortion clinic with a program for genetic abnormalities. Through sobbing, I managed to make an appointment for the following week to terminate the pregnancy. by Nicole K. On a foggy winter morning, I pick up the baby’s ashes at the post office. It’s just eleven days after his death. The small, square box is conspicuously labeled “Cremated Remains” which manages to even silence our chatty neighborhood postal clerk. I walk back to our minivan carrying a nearly weightless box while feeling the weight of the world. It takes a while for the tears to stop enough that I can drive. I bring […]

Stories

I Chose Peace

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VACTERL

By reading this story I hope you find comfort in knowing you aren’t alone. I hope some of the strategies I used to cope will give you a beneficial perspective. by Nicole C. I was five months pregnant with our second son. My first pregnancy was normal and I was just trying to survive through this one to “complete our family” as my husband put it. Little did I realize how much I was taking for granted. During our routine 20-week ultrasound, my OBGYN found a slight umbilical cord issue. It took me three weeks to get in for my routine Level II ultrasound that […]

Practical Information

Q & A: How can I avoid Pro-Life OBs?

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avoid anti-choice zealots

QUESTION: Going into a subsequent pregnancy after termination for fetal anomaly, I find I’m really concerned about the politics of my health care providers. How can I tell if an obstetrician (OB), maternal-fetal medicine (MFM) specialist or other health care provider is a “pro-life” anti-choice zealot who won’t support my decisions about my body, my baby and my family? ANSWER: This is a great question and an important one. I actually had (unbeknownst to me at the time) a pro-life MFM. He deliberately delayed telling me my amnio results in an attempt to push me past my state’s abortion deadline. Fortunately, my regular (pro-choice) OB stepped […]