Grief and beauty after termination for hydrops and cystic hygroma

The Birds Are Still Singing

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“I asked for those flowers because I wanted a reminder of your life, and your birth that was also your death but yet, it was a birth.” By Sabrina Fletcher This week I should have been entering the third trimester of my second pregnancy. The trimester of “Oh, when are you due?” and of “Oh wow, you’re having a baby!”… and the trimester of maternity tops and stretchy elastic band pants and round round bellies (and other parts). But you, my baby, are not here with me. The air is chilly and wet as I step outside to throw the compost onto the pile in our […]

No Known Cases

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By H. My husband and I are currently waiting to have our termination in another three days. I am will be 18 weeks pregnant when I have the procedure. At our 12-week scan we learned that our baby had a cystic hygroma which could indicate a heart defect, a chromosomal abnormality or an inherited genetic disorder. A few days later we had a specialised scan to diagnose the problem. The technician was unable to confirm anything. What they could see looked fine in regards to heart, size of baby, etc. They offered us a termination at this point, but said there was still a 5-10% chance the baby could be born completely […]

A Glimpse of Eternity

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By V.E. I had begun to feel queasy and tired, and I knew these were the symptoms of early pregnancy.  I had a 19-year-old daughter and a 2-year-old son, and wanted so much for him to have a sibling close to his age. The anticipation of having another precious child in our lives made me not mind the downsides of pregnancy. Because I was 38 at the time, my GP recommending a dating ultrasound to when I was around nine weeks gestation. That is a sad day I will remember for the rest of my life. The specialist performing the ultrasound looked at the screen for a […]