Late Termination in Wichita

Posted on Posted in Induction/L&D, Neural Tube Defects, Spina Bifida, Stories, Termination after 24 weeks, Ventriculomegaly

By Donna My son was my long awaited journey into motherhood. He was my lifeline the day my brother died and I thought the world was ending. He was the glimmer of hope that was offered to family members that horrible week that we had four family members die. He was my everything, and then he was gone. At the end of September 2005, my husband and I found out that we were expecting a child. We were excited to finally start a family. The following week my brother and cousin were killed in a car wreck, then my aunt died from cancer, and my […]

How to Make an Impossible Choice

Posted on Posted in Induction/L&D, Stories, Termination after 24 weeks

By Margot I cannot claim to have been naive about poor pregnancy outcomes before my abortion. My husband and I had been debating for several years about whether to pursue adoption or try for a biological child when one of our friends had a uterine rupture at six and a half months pregnant. The baby died, and she nearly did too. During the emergency surgery that saved her life, they had to remove her uterus. Most of the “cons” of pregnancy we’d contemplated previously were things like morning sickness, weight gain, and contributing to overpopulation. You might think our friends’ catastrophic loss would have given […]

Not Written in the Stars

Posted on Posted in Induction/L&D, Stories, Termination after 24 weeks

By R.M. Two years ago we were expecting our third child. After a missed miscarriage at 13 weeks earlier in the year, we had gotten through what we thought was the risky part. As we inched toward our third trimester, we were excited and a little nervous to bring another baby into our lives. The 20-week ultrasound turned everything upside down. I noticed it right away on the screen:  A large, dark spot in the baby’s brain.  We were told to call our midwife. She said it may be nothing, or a cyst, or an aneurism.  We saw a specialist who told us it was a brain […]

What Kind of Mother … ?

Posted on Posted in Dandy Walker Syndrome, Induction/L&D, Termination after 24 weeks

By Rachel Bertsche When Kate, a 29-year-old mom outside Boston, found out she was pregnant with a second daughter, she was elated. Then, at 36 weeks along, she got the news that is every expecting parent’s worst nightmare: Her baby, who she would later name Rose, had two brain malformations. Kate decided to have abortion, and eventually found solace in a support group on the website Ending a Wanted Pregnancy. The online community is for parents who terminate pregnancies for medical reasons (pregnancies they wanted, but chose to end after a severe prenatal diagnosis or maternal health issue) and who often feel alone or ashamed, and […]

My Third-Trimester Abortion

Posted on Posted in Dandy Walker Syndrome, Stories, Termination after 24 weeks

By Kate C. This article is based on a talk the author gave to OBs and medical students at her diagnosing hospital. I am here today to tell you about my third trimester abortion. Before I begin, I want to make two things very clear: First, I am here to speak with you because I want to share my experience. I am not afraid to share, and you shouldn’t be afraid to ask questions if you have them. I think people often hold back to protect me, but they needn’t bother. I live with these memories every day. There is no angle from which I haven’t looked […]

Oh, Courtney

Posted on Posted in Termination after 24 weeks, Trisomy 18 (Edward's syndrome)

By Gina Years ago I traveled to Kansas to obtain an abortion. Even now, after all this time, I try to think of a euphemism for it. I interrupted the pregnancy. I made a heart-wrenching decision. Could it really be that I’d actually had a late-term abortion? Yes, that is exactly what I had to do. It took me a long time to be OK with that word, but I finally am now. It was what it was, and it is what it is, and there should be no shame or guilt in that. At the time, I already had a daughter who nearly three years old, and was thrilled to be expecting […]

The Tip of the Iceberg

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Anonymous This happened a long time ago, but it will stay with me forever. In the beginning, I felt an uneasiness about that pregnancy. I can’t explain it. It just felt different. I was 16 weeks along when we received the first piece of frightening news. My triple screen came back indicating a rare genetic disease. I followed it up with the amniocentesis and waited two long weeks for the results. They were negative for all three major chromosomal disorders (Trisomy 13, Trisomy 18 and Trisomy 21) and for the rare genetic disease. My husband and I were thrilled. At 18 weeks we had an ultrasound done and our baby […]

Remembering Dr. Tiller’s Kindness

Posted on Posted in Congenital Heart Defects, Hydrocephalus, Termination after 24 weeks

M. K. My story takes place in the year 2000. I was 32 years old and had two older boys from a previous relationship. Jason and I had been married three years and I was pregnant. We were excited and ready to be parents together for the first time. We had selected furniture, car seats, and other items to help us keep our baby comfortable, warm, protected and loved. I took prenatal vitamins, didn’t drink, had never smoked, and avoided sushi, artificial sweeteners, deli meats and cheeses. I had all the usual prenatal tests and everything was normal. Twenty-nine weeks into my pregnancy my OB said I was “carrying […]

What I Wish I had Known

Posted on Posted in Practical Information, Termination after 24 weeks

By Heather I am not ready to talk about my baby yet, and all the things that went wrong, but I am ready for others who have to make that terrifying decision to know what I wish I had known. I was 28 weeks pregnant, much too far along to terminate my pregnancy my home state. I’d never even considered the politics and how they would embed themselves so deeply into my own life. I think it is horrible that when families are told that their baby has a condition that is incompatible with life—that they most likely will die in utero, but if not, live only […]

Jamie, at 32 Weeks

Posted on Posted in Fetal Hydrops, Induction/L&D, Polyhydraminios, Termination after 24 weeks

My husband and I weren’t yet trying for number three, but we always felt there would be one more baby for us. God had just decided it would be sooner than we’d thought. Little did we know where this was going to lead. My first trimester was met with extreme nausea and bleeding. Every time I had a heavy bleeding episode, I would think, This is it, this baby isn’t going to make it. My kind and understanding OB brought me in twice a week to see my baby, to let me know she was alive and kicking. Each time I saw her, I stared in […]