Q&A: Who The Hell Are You?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION Who The Hell Are You To Tell People Its Ok To End Life. You Are Not The LIVING GOD! and if you were to read the Bible You Would Know That. How Does Anyone Know If That Baby Was Born and Was A Miracle Baby??? Stop Trying To Out Do What God Has For Us… Doctors Don’t Always Know What Is Good For Us, Now Do They???? Pray as God Does Answer Our Prayers…He Always Has A Plan For US…. ANSWER That’s a complicated question so I’m going to break it down and answer […]

Survival & Strengthening

Posted on Posted in Induction/L&D, Multiple Losses, Stories, Trisomy 18 (Edward's syndrome), Trisomy 21 (Down syndrome)

By Anne Mellinger-Birdsong Survived is used in the sense of being stronger for having accomplished a major challenge. I have survived The death of my mother Before I was married Before I had children. I have survived The loss of 3 babies Much wanted and much loved, And that has changed me more Than anything else that ever happened. I have survived The questions and harangues From people who didn’t understand Or flat out disagreed With our decision to induce labor When we found out our baby had Down syndrome (Trisomy 21). Who didn’t know all the medical problems that go with Down syndrome Who […]

Nova, our shining star

Posted on Posted in Congenital Heart Defects, D&E, Stories

By A.N. Pregnancy is supposed to be a joyous experience. With a history of two prior miscarriages, we waited until 13 weeks to begin to share the news with people beyond our immediate family. We never did an official announcement but word of mouth travels fast. After 13 weeks, anyone who was in our close circle of friends and family knew we were expecting a little girl. Our family was excited for the addition; my daughter was thrilled that she would have a sister. Nova was our baby’s unofficial name, our shining star. You have big dreams for your baby, before he or she ever graces this earth […]

The 20-Week Abortion Ban is Harmful

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By Anne RE: The Pain-Capable Unborn Child Protection Act Abortion care is normal medical care. There are times it saves women’s lives. There are times it allows dying babies to suffer less than if they were born. There are grayer zones where women or babies are ill but not dying. There are even grayer areas, where it is still medically necessary. Abortion is a private medical decision made by a woman in consultation with her doctor. It is not possible for people with no medical training, who do not know a woman’s medical history, and have not conducted a physical exam of the woman, to […]

Q&A: Why Not Just Scan for Defects Earlier?

Posted on Posted in D&E, Induction/L&D, Omphalocele, Opinion, Q&A, Stories

Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION Why have an abortion so late? Why not just scan for defects earlier? A 12-week scan can pick up most issues. I had a scan at 12 weeks and discovered our baby had a giant omphalecele (all his internal organs were in a sack on the outside of his body). We were told his lungs and heart would not develop properly and he had a 1 in 10,000 chance of surviving to the age of two. Because nerve endings don’t develop until about the 18 week mark, we made the heartbreaking decision to end the pregnancy […]

Still Relevant

Posted on Posted in Anencephaly, Hydrocephalus, Induction/L&D, Multiple Losses, Neural Tube Defects, Spina Bifida

By MJP We’re the women politicians don’t talk about. Women who were pregnant with wanted and waited for babies, not birth control accidents, not rape, and not “irresponsible.” My story is now 24 years old but still relevant. We always thought we would have three or four children. Baby number one was born in 1985 after an uneventful pregnancy, a healthy boy. In spring of 1988 I had my first miscarriage and was devastated. In 1990 I had a second miscarriage. I was told not to worry, that it was only after a third miscarriage that the doctors would be concerned. A few months later I […]

Rage Over Restrictions

Posted on Posted in D&E, Hydrocephalus, Neural Tube Defects, Spina Bifida

By H. R. The pregnancy was very normal and everything seemed to be going fine. I had the free-cell DNA test and that came back normal, so didn’t feel the need for any second trimester screenings. I do sometimes regret that I didn’t have the second trimester screenings as they might have let me get this information sooner, and maybe the termination would have been easier physically. But I don’t know that, so I’ve had to let that regret go along with so many other regrets as I work through this grieving process. The 20 week level II anatomy scan at the perinatologist’s took a long […]

A Mother’s Testimony Before State Congress

Posted on Posted in Alobar Holoprosencephaly, D&E

By Heather P. Dear esteemed members of the NC House Health Committee, my name is Heather P. and I am writing as testimony in opposition to HB 465 being considered tomorrow in your chambers. I kindly ask you to read my story with an open mind before deciding how you will vote on this important issue. HB 465 seeks to both limit and truncate the rights of all North Carolina women while additionally placing one of this state’s most esteemed medical learning institutions at risk of monumental damage to both its reputation and ability to retain its full accreditation. The restrictions being proposed against UNC […]

Q&A: How Did Legal Restrictions Affect Your Experience?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION Were there legal and insurance restrictions on pregnancy termination that affected your procedure or made it harder to obtain or afford? If so, which restrictions and how did they affect your experience? Please include your state, province or geographic region. All answers were provided by members of Ending a Wanted Pregnancy’s  private grief support group. Note: To find out more about abortion restrictions where you live, check out NARAL’s interactive map detailing abortion restrictions state-by-state. ANSWERS Florida—No one would touch me with a ten-foot pole here. I was told (which I later found out was false) that the […]