avoid anti-choice zealots

Q & A: How can I avoid Pro-Life OBs?

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QUESTION: Going into a subsequent pregnancy after termination for fetal anomaly, I find I’m really concerned about the politics of my health care providers. How can I tell if an obstetrician (OB), maternal-fetal medicine (MFM) specialist or other health care provider is a “pro-life” anti-choice zealot who won’t support my decisions about my body, my baby and my family? ANSWER: This is a great question and an important one. I actually had (unbeknownst to me at the time) a pro-life MFM. He deliberately delayed telling me my amnio results in an attempt to push me past my state’s abortion deadline. Fortunately, my regular (pro-choice) OB stepped […]

Q & A: Is this an appropriate question?

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Just look at these bees, minding their own beeswax. Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION I appreciate the honesty of Kate C. I just read a piece of her writings from 2015. I’m wondering if mothers who choose abortion for a wanted pregnancy ever request testing on their baby’s bodies to confirm the diagnoses doctors give during pregnancy? And maybe why Kate C didn’t. Her article invited questions, so I’m hoping this is still appropriate. Thank you. Cheryl T.   ANSWER Hi Cheryl T. Occasionally, parents do request testing following an abortion for medical reasons. However, asking Kate C. why she […]

Think about it.

Think About It

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by Margot Finn Do you know what it is like to live in the same house as a room that you intended for a baby who died? God help you if you’ve already set up a crib and changing table. Do you disassemble them yourself in a sobbing rage late one night, thinking about all the times people told you chipperly to “get sleep now while you can!”? Or do you hack them to bits and burn them some bleak February day when you would have been massively pregnant, about to go into labor any day now, in the alternate timeline where your baby wasn’t […]

MTHFR gene - Read about why many medical associations (ACMG, ACOG, AAFP) are recommending not testing for this gene

MTHFR Common Polymorphisms

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Editor’s note: The topic of the MTHFR gene crops up every now and then in our private support group. A medical professional who happens to also be a member of our group was concerned about unfounded fears raised by common misunderstandings about this gene. She wrote the following to clarify the facts about this gene and hopefully ease concerns.   By Jenn  The MTHFR gene that has some very common changes within it (so common that 50% of us carry 1 or 2 changes within this gene).  When this gene was first discovered it was thought to be associated with many health concerns including blood clots, […]

From my side of the picket link - " Anencephaly was the word the doctor handed to me, scribbled on the back of Avery’s freshly printed ultrasound photo. 200% accurate diagnosis is what he stated when I pleaded with him to double check. "

From My Side of the Picket Sign

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I will never succumb to feeling guilty or selfish for the most selfless decision I’ve ever made. By Carissa Waldner I see you day after day holding up the sign that continually haunts me, “Babies killed here.” I watch as your supporters show up on the weekends and stand with you, holding pictures of fetuses, showcasing the number of days and hours it takes for a human heart to start beating. Your eyes are cold and judgmental. They pierce through me as I drive by. I avert mine day after day, knowing how you’d feel if you knew my story. Every morning I drive past […]

Who the hell are you?

Q&A: Who The Hell Are You?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION Who The Hell Are You To Tell People Its Ok To End Life. You Are Not The LIVING GOD! and if you were to read the Bible You Would Know That. How Does Anyone Know If That Baby Was Born and Was A Miracle Baby??? Stop Trying To Out Do What God Has For Us… Doctors Don’t Always Know What Is Good For Us, Now Do They???? Pray as God Does Answer Our Prayers…He Always Has A Plan For US…. ANSWER That’s a complicated question so I’m going to break it down and answer […]

Walk a Mile in My Shoes

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By Breana Within the last year a lot has changed in my world as well as the world around me. Personally it’s been almost one year since my husband and I got married. It’s been over 6 months since traveled across the world to the land down under. And now it’s been over 2 months since we said goodbye without being able to say hello to our baby girl. It’s been a month or more since the Supreme Court ruled in support of gay marriage. There are now over 20 presidential candidates who are daily trying to make their way to top. And Bruce Jenner […]

Expecting Adam will not make you a better person

Q&A: Would it have made me a better person?

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What if I had continued the pregnancy? Would my living children grow to become stronger, gentler people? Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION I terminated my pregnancy following a poor prenatal diagnosis of omphalocele. Recently, I read a memoir called Expecting Adam by Marsha Beck, the mother of a child with Down syndrome who learned of his condition prenatally and chose to continue her pregnancy. It’s making me wonder if a better person would make a different choice than I did. After reading it, I’ve started to second-guess my decision. What if we’d been more willing to change our priorities? If we’d readjusted our […]

acronyms

Q&A: What are all those acronyms?

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Our list of common abbreviations or acronyms should clear up any confusion about the shorthand we use in our private support group Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION I’m new to the private support group. While I love reading and relating to everyone’s stories and situations here, there are so many new acronyms, abbreviations, and shorthand that sometimes I get confused. I really want to understand everything. Is there a list of these I can use for reference when I come across an acronym I’ve never seen before? ANSWER We really do use a lot of abbreviations. Many of these may be familiar from […]

The 20-Week Abortion Ban is Harmful

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By Anne RE: The Pain-Capable Unborn Child Protection Act Abortion care is normal medical care. There are times it saves women’s lives. There are times it allows dying babies to suffer less than if they were born. There are grayer zones where women or babies are ill but not dying. There are even grayer areas, where it is still medically necessary. Abortion is a private medical decision made by a woman in consultation with her doctor. It is not possible for people with no medical training, who do not know a woman’s medical history, and have not conducted a physical exam of the woman, to […]