I Terminated a Planned Pregnancy

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By Sara Garafalo I always wanted to be a mom. But after my (now 5 year old) daughter was born, I began to realize all that was involved. The sleepless nights and never-ending crying were the least of it. As someone with severe OCD (and not the hand washing kind you see on TV), I began to have endless anxiety over every move my daughter made. Every rash was meningitis, every cough was pneumonia and, later on, every repetitive movement was a tic. My husband and I always said we’d have two and he really wanted a boy. I believe it had something to do […]

Rage Over Restrictions

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By H. R. The pregnancy was very normal and everything seemed to be going fine. I had the free-cell DNA test and that came back normal, so didn’t feel the need for any second trimester screenings. I do sometimes regret that I didn’t have the second trimester screenings as they might have let me get this information sooner, and maybe the termination would have been easier physically. But I don’t know that, so I’ve had to let that regret go along with so many other regrets as I work through this grieving process. The 20 week level II anatomy scan at the perinatologist’s took a long […]

A Mother’s Testimony Before State Congress

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By Heather P. Dear esteemed members of the NC House Health Committee, my name is Heather P. and I am writing as testimony in opposition to HB 465 being considered tomorrow in your chambers. I kindly ask you to read my story with an open mind before deciding how you will vote on this important issue. HB 465 seeks to both limit and truncate the rights of all North Carolina women while additionally placing one of this state’s most esteemed medical learning institutions at risk of monumental damage to both its reputation and ability to retain its full accreditation. The restrictions being proposed against UNC […]

Q&A: How Did You Deal with Baby’s Remains?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION We asked our support group members to share their answers to these questions: How did you handle your baby’s remains? Is there anything you wish you had known earlier, or wish could have been done differently? There are no “wrong” answers to this question. Note: This may be a sensitive or “triggering” topic for some, especially the newly bereaved. For those who wonder, hospitals do deal with remains in a respectful manner in the absence of specific instructions from patients. ANSWERS My wife had a D&E and we opted to have a direct cremation. The hospital […]

I Just Miss Her

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Anonymous It took almost two years to conceive our first child, Cade. We had him after seven rounds of clomid and one IUI. I got pregnant with Elise the month after I stopped nursing Cade, and the first time after my period came back. It was so easy. I was considered very low risk for everything and didn’t have my first ultrasound until 20 weeks. I was nervous, but also basking in how “normal” this pregnancy was. I got to celebrate and get nervous about how close in age my children would be (22 months). I was a lot sicker than I was with Cade, and I […]

My Little Lion

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By Jessica C. Our son was two and we were ready to add on to our family. I became pregnant after our first try and we were very excited. I was a little nervous about my “advanced age” as I was 36 going on 37, but otherwise I felt good. We told our son about the baby, and asked him whether he thought it was a boy or a girl. He told us it was a lion. Later we learned our baby was another boy and our son’s prediction didn’t falter—our baby was a boy lion. We’d passed all the chromosomal tests for my “advanced age” and appeared to be in the clear. Once the first trimester […]

Q&A: How Did You Handle the Financial Burden?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION How did you handle the financial burdens associated with ending your wanted pregnancy? These might include any medical expenses, travel expenses if you had to travel to obtain your procedure, cremation, funeral and related costs, and counseling services or mental health therapy. ANSWERS California—Thankfully, my health insurance covered all of it. I am lucky to live in California. Michigan—My parents helped us. I was a SAHM at the time and we were getting by on my husband’s teacher’s salary. Because he is a state employee, our health insurance wouldn’t touch abortion for any reason. We didn’ […]

Q&A: Can I Choose the Termination Procedure I Want?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION My unborn child has been diagnosed with severe spina bifida with hydrocephalus at week 19 gestation. My husband and I have decided to terminate the pregnancy. The  D&E seems cruel to me. I would like to have early induction and delivery abortion (L&D) but I don’t think they will offer it to me. I think that I would cope and grieve more effectively with this termination method. I want to see my child and say goodbye. Do you have any suggestions?   ANSWER I am very sorry that you are having to go through […]

Our Sweet Baby

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By N.M. Just weeks before my 26th birthday, I found out the wonderful news that I was pregnant. My husband and I had gone through months of infertility treatments to get to this point and we couldn’t have been happier. As new parents-to-be we couldn’t contain our excitement and told all of our friends and family about the baby. My pregnancy was a relatively easy one. I had no morning sickness, no mood changes, or anything negative. I was happy and healthy and falling in love with my child. Due to circumstances surrounding when I had conceived, I had ultrasounds done every four weeks starting […]

My Out-of-State Abortion

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A Mother in Mississippi My husband and I already had a beautiful little girl when we conceived our second child. We were very excited about the pregnancy, and told everyone. I never dreamed that pregnancy would end at an abortion clinic in another state. The day of the ultrasound where we were to find out the sex of the baby finally came. All we thought about was whether we’d be having a little girl or a little boy. I don’t think it ever occurred to us that this would turn out to be the worst day ever. I knew something must be wrong because the […]