Q&A: Who The Hell Are You?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION Who The Hell Are You To Tell People Its Ok To End Life. You Are Not The LIVING GOD! and if you were to read the Bible You Would Know That. How Does Anyone Know If That Baby Was Born and Was A Miracle Baby??? Stop Trying To Out Do What God Has For Us… Doctors Don’t Always Know What Is Good For Us, Now Do They???? Pray as God Does Answer Our Prayers…He Always Has A Plan For US…. ANSWER That’s a complicated question so I’m going to break it down and answer […]

Q&A: Would it have made me a better person?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION I terminated my pregnancy following a poor prenatal diagnosis of omphalocele. Recently, I read a memoir called Expecting Adam by Marsha Beck, the mother of a child with Down syndrome who learned of his condition prenatally and chose to continue her pregnancy. It’s making me wonder if a better person would make a different choice than I did. After reading it, I’ve started to second-guess my decision. What if we’d been more willing to change our priorities? If we’d readjusted our life goals? What if I had continued the pregnancy? Would my living children grow to become stronger, gentler […]

Q&A: What are all those acronyms?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION I’m new to the private support group. While I love reading and relating to everyone’s stories and situations here, there are so many new acronyms, abbreviations and shorthand that sometimes I get confused. I really want to understand everything. Is there a list of these I can use for reference when I come across an acronym I’ve never seen before? ANSWER We really do use a lot of abbreviations. Many of these may be familiar from other discussion areas on the internet, but several are shorthand for various prenatal diagnoses or tests, medical procedures, and os on. Some are […]

Q&A: Why Not Just Scan for Defects Earlier?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION Why have an abortion so late? Why not just scan for defects earlier? A 12-week scan can pick up most issues. I had a scan at 12 weeks and discovered our baby had a giant omphalecele (all his internal organs were in a sack on the outside of his body). We were told his lungs and heart would not develop properly and he had a 1 in 10,000 chance of surviving to the age of two. Because nerve endings don’t develop until about the 18 week mark, we made the heartbreaking decision to end the pregnancy […]

Q&A: What Songs Touch You?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION What songs touch you in relation to your experience of ending a wanted pregnancy. Please share the artist, song title, a link to a YouTube video and if you like, a few words about how the song connects to your experience/grief/loss or healing. ANSWERS Happy Birthday by Piper and Flipsyde. Flipsyde – Happy Birthday (We The People) Pearl Jam’s Black was the first song that really got to me. I remember sitting in the Target parking lot crying when this came on the radio. “Now my bitter hands cradle broken glass of what was everything. All […]

Q&A How Are You Getting Through Mother’s Day?

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 Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION We asked our support group members to share their answers to these questions: How will you deal with Mother’s Day this year? Are you making any special plans? Do you have any Mother’s Day traditions? Will you create an activity or add a new tradition to honor the baby you lost? How will you let your family and friends know what you need this Mother’s Day? ANSWERS I focus on my mom on Mother’s Day. I haven’t ever thought my loss on that day and I won’t this year either. I lost both of […]

Q&A: How Did Legal Restrictions Affect Your Experience?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION Were there legal and insurance restrictions on pregnancy termination that affected your procedure or made it harder to obtain or afford? If so, which restrictions and how did they affect your experience? Please include your state, province or geographic region. All answers were provided by members of Ending a Wanted Pregnancy’s  private grief support group. Note: To find out more about abortion restrictions where you live, check out NARAL’s interactive map detailing abortion restrictions state-by-state. ANSWERS Florida—No one would touch me with a ten-foot pole here. I was told (which I later found out was false) that the […]

Q&A: How Did You Deal with Baby’s Remains?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION We asked our support group members to share their answers to these questions: How did you handle your baby’s remains? Is there anything you wish you had known earlier, or wish could have been done differently? There are no “wrong” answers to this question. Note: This may be a sensitive or “triggering” topic for some, especially the newly bereaved. For those who wonder, hospitals do deal with remains in a respectful manner in the absence of specific instructions from patients. ANSWERS My wife had a D&E and we opted to have a direct cremation. The hospital […]

Q&A: Where Can I Find Support?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION My husband and I decided to end our pregnancy seven months ago after learning our baby had severe issues due to Amniotic Band Syndrome. I tried several times to sign up for a Yahoo listserv that was featured prominently on a different “termination after poor prenatal diagnosis” web site, but got absolutely no response. I’m still struggling with our decision almost daily. I just need to talk to someone who has been there. I do have a counselor and she helps me with my grief, but it’s not like I miscarried spontaneously. This is just so different from other prenatal losses. I don’t […]

Q&A: How do you deal with people who disagree?

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Have a question for Ending a Wanted Pregnancy? Email us. QUESTION I’ve ended two pregnancies because of Cystic Fibrosis. We are still trying to welcome a child into our lives, through IVF. Over the last few years I have written a lot. Now I feel I want to reach out more with my personal writing, maybe through a book, a blog or a web site. Should I use my own name or a pseudonym? I don’t want to hide, but I don’t want the subject to be the decision we made, but the grief that we had to face because of it. That’s how I want to reach out to people. […]